As I’ve embarked on the journey toward wholeness this year I’ve realized goals have been a big distraction from what I truly desire.
Don’t get me wrong, goals have served me well in many ways throughout my 35 years. And I’m grateful for that.
Goals are often like the Peloton of the rat race, though. Sure, they may seem sexier than the everyday hamster wheel, but you’re still running in place after a carrot on a stick that can't be caught.
In the past, I think I’ve associated goals on a subconscious level with achieving peace and fulfillment. Sure, I never thought of it that way at the time, especially in my younger years. But I think deep down that’s what I was always searching for.
I mean, who doesn't ultimately want lasting peace and fulfillment?
The problem with searching for fulfillment through goals is that it's always fleeting.
There always has to be another goal to keep us going, and any fulfillment we find never lasts long. Which means it was never truly realized at all.
So the jig is this- a goal is often just a false promise of peace.
Because goals are usually external “things.” A car, house, job, partner, whatever it is- if it’s outside of us, it's not going to last, and it therefore cannot bring lasting peace or fulfillment.
True peace and fulfillment can only come from within ourselves.
So it's never about what we do or any “thing” we achieve, but it's always about who we are and how we’re choosing to show up in every moment.
Our ability to choose how we respond in every moment is our greatest ability.
It is our response ability (responsibility) that defines our inner-maturity; which we can only begin to cultivate through facing ourselves and developing our capacity for self-control and self-acceptance.
We don’t need goals or excuses, we need to learn to trust ourselves, our intuition, and to connect with our true selves, and from there, from that field, we have everything we need. This is where we may begin to cultivate lasting peace and fulfillment.
And then, we just might find, what we used to think of as goals, simply become the by-product of who we are. Because who we are- who you are- is always enough. And everything you have experienced short of this fact has been a means of slowly teaching you this truth
Just because your life may not make perfect sense to you now doesn't mean that it wont in the future.
The universe only knows love and compassion. Everything else is an illusion.
The treasure you seek is merely your own journey of coming to full realization of your inherent wholeness.
So if you’re going to make a goal for 2021, make sure it’s you.
Be your own goal and realize your true self. No “thing” will ever compare. No matter what “goal” you could ever achieve.
You are worthy. You always have been.
You’re simply waiting for yourself to realize it.
What do you think? Does this idea resonate? How are you thinking about goals or aspirations as we head into 2021? Have a happy New Year!
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